Days of Grease and how they apply today..... Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Recently I've been thinking of an old, brufen retard dear friend. Because of a series of events which continue to present themselves in my life, brufen retard I've been thinking about "Sandy". Actually her name is not Sandy, brufen retard but that's the part she played in our production of "Grease".Â I played the part of one of the Pink Ladies, brufen retardÂ Jan. The summer of 1985 was a memorable one. My father had passed away that April, brufen retard and in many ways that summer was one of sadness and grieving, brufen retard along with conversely some wonderful memories of the opportunity of being cast in some great productions. Summer stock as with any small community can be an interesting one. 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However, brufen retard Sandy always found her way through the corn fields and eventually through the situation that we would later laugh about, brufen retard but not without the realization of what individuals are capable of inflicting from whatever pain/perceptions they hold in their hearts. Today what I remember had little to do with the production of a show. Today I remember my friend Sandy who was a grown up, brufen retard even though she was only eighteen.Â Â When she was the first of our friends to marry, brufen retard and the last one we expected to because of her independent nature, brufen retard I sang at her wedding.Â Â Â I was honored. The past few days I've thought about calling her. I would like to channel the dignity and poise I continued to witness in that young girl who I saw as a mentor. While compassion and conviction often seem to be too huge to carry at times, brufen retardÂ qualities like temperance and reserve are necded especially when situations and individuals actions elude. Sandy had the ability I've seen in only a very rare few - to remain true to herself and her convictions and additionally detach from situations, brufen retard whispers, brufen retard innuendo that at that time at Okoboji were swirling and simmering. It seems my nature to understand situations is being broadsided by the reality there are situations that we simply shouldn't attempt to understand, brufen retard at least at the time they are present in our lives. My own "summerstock" experience has lasted a much longer time than a summer. Since moving to California, brufen retard finding a freedom and an independence has come with a cost. While it has been imperative for my own growth and maturity, brufen retard it has also placed me in positions with some family members and those in powerful places that I frankly would not have thought to ever adequately anticipate. I've learned many things. I'm learning the value of insight and the art of discernment. I've learned that people see what they see and additionally they say what they want to say. I am no different in that regard and as such am a student as is everyone else. However the importance is in the realization that we all are both students and teachers to each other. Some choose to realize that, brufen retard others may choose to exploit it. Its a choice we all make. Today I remember Sandy's poise, brufen retard self-respect and inner strength during what was a turbulent moment years ago. I've been reminded by friends recently that others will make choices by their own perceptions, brufen retard judgements, brufen retard and/or agenda.Â I can choose how to respond, brufen retard or likewise, brufen retard not.