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Which is your favorite personality type to be around?  The People Factor: It’s All About Energy                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        By Sarah Kathleen Peck Ever been at a party and felt like you were completely exhausted? That you couldn’t stand to keep your eyes open for another minute, buy benfotiamine even though it was supposed to be an amazing party? Likewise, buy benfotiamine have you ever stayed up almost all night, buy benfotiamine focused and driven, buy benfotiamine surrounded by brilliant people and creative ideas? Energy comes in limited quantities. It is finite, buy benfotiamine it waxes and wanes, buy benfotiamine and it grows or diminishes based on what you are doing and who you are surrounded with. What dictates our energy? How do we capture these spaces that help us be amazing, buy benfotiamine and remove the events and things that deplete our energy? There are people, buy benfotiamine places and things that make me feel like I’m building my energy stores, buy benfotiamine that rejuvenate me, buy benfotiamine and help me to do my best work. Likewise, buy benfotiamine there are also people and places that zap my energy; that leave me exhausted; that make me feel as though I’ve waste my time and my energy – and my day – without getting anything useful done. While brainstorming in a coffee shop with a dear friend, buy benfotiamine we both asked each other how to deal with these different personality types as they come into our lives. People are exceptional – they are our number one resource – but not all people are helpful at any given project or time. How do you make decisions about how you spend your time – and who you hang out with? And more importantly, buy benfotiamine how do you say no to people and things that zap your energy reserves? Together, buy benfotiamine we made a map of the different types of people in our lives, buy benfotiamine and agreed that we would consciously try to say no to hanging out with people that didn’t help us in our long-term goals – or in our energy management. This system isn’t just about eliminating “Negative Nancys” and “Debbie Downers” (although every effort should be made to reduce their presence in your life). Understanding how people affect you means that you can do a better job matching what you need at any given moment to what your energy requires. Sometimes I don’t need to be around excited people. Buy benfotiamine Sometimes I just need another balanced philosopher to do and create my best work. And sometimes I need to be more judicious about reducing the time I spend with people who don’t match my energy. On the energy spectrum, buy benfotiamine here are the ranges of personality types – from high, buy benfotiamine positive energy, buy benfotiamine to balanced and stable individuals, buy benfotiamine to strong negative energy. Do you identify with any of the following energy personality types? How do you bring these different personas into your world? And do you pay attention to how people make you feel?

The Positives

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The Middle Balance (Balancers and Grounders)

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  • The Strugglers and Changers. There are people who are struggling, buy benfotiamine working towards change, buy benfotiamine and are sometimes frustrated or caught in-betweens. Buy benfotiamine They are on their way towards becoming the person they want to be, buy benfotiamine and conversations with them are raw, buy benfotiamine open, buy benfotiamine inspiring, buy benfotiamine hard, buy benfotiamine and generally variable.These are my strongest friends, buy benfotiamine the people who open my eyes and listen to my shared experiences as well. Buy benfotiamine We learn well together. Buy benfotiamine To note, buy benfotiamine however, buy benfotiamine sometimes I don’t have enough energy to devote to these conversations, buy benfotiamine and it’s best to say No and save the date for another, buy benfotiamine more energetic time.

Negatives

  • The Repetitives and Non-Changers. People who are stuck in a problem that you’ve listened to for years. Buy benfotiamine Their complaints are the same, buy benfotiamine over and over again, buy benfotiamine and they don’t bring anything new to the table. Buy benfotiamine Each time, buy benfotiamine it feels like you’re stuck in déjà-vu, buy benfotiamine because you’re still talking about how to deal with their terrible relationships, buy benfotiamine bad work situation, buy benfotiamine or general malaise. Buy benfotiamine To deal with these types, buy benfotiamine tell them, buy benfotiamine politely and firmly, buy benfotiamine that you don’t want to talk about their ____ problem anymore. Buy benfotiamine “I appreciate all the struggles you are having with your job situation, buy benfotiamine but I’d like to not talk about that anymore. Buy benfotiamine I know you are working hard on it. Buy benfotiamine Let’s focus and talk about new things when we meet.”
  • The Fakes. There are people who masquerade as positives – the words they use are cheery, buy benfotiamine they tell you what they think you want to hear; they quote inspirational things and bits. Buy benfotiamine But the substance is not there. Buy benfotiamine And, buy benfotiamine more importantly, buy benfotiamine you are not rejuvenated by the words or the ideas in the way you are around Quiet Wonders or Listeners or Buzzers. Buy benfotiamine Some people are obviously fake; others not so obviously. Buy benfotiamine At the end of the day, buy benfotiamine what’s most important is how you respond when you’re around them.
  • Negative Influences. There are people who are wonderful, buy benfotiamine interesting, buy benfotiamine bright, buy benfotiamine and creative. Buy benfotiamine And yet, buy benfotiamine for some reason, buy benfotiamine I am negatively influenced when I am around them. Buy benfotiamine It’s not that they themselves are bad people – it’s that I make bad choices when I’m around them. Buy benfotiamine For some reason or another, buy benfotiamine hanging out with them is not conducive to my success. Buy benfotiamine These are the trickiest people to identify, buy benfotiamine because there’s nothing about them that’s bad or easy to rationalize avoiding. Buy benfotiamine It’s how they influence you that tells you about whether or not it’s a good person to have in your life.
  • Toxic. These are the people who make you feel like shutting down when you’re around them. Buy benfotiamine The people that drain you, buy benfotiamine that zap your energy, buy benfotiamine that are filled with negativity and cutting remarks. Buy benfotiamine Most of us quickly eliminate these people from our lives after just a few interactions. Buy benfotiamine They are easy to spot and identify. Buy benfotiamine If you still have them around, buy benfotiamine ask yourself why? What do you benefit from being with a toxic person?
In each of these scenarios, buy benfotiamine the most important thing is how each of these personality types make you feel. It’s not about whether or not the person is a good or bad person – it’s about whether or not they are the right energy type for you. It’s important to note that not all people can fit neatly into each of these categories – often the dynamic relationships we have with others changes depending on who is interacting and what the objectives are. Buy benfotiamine Sometimes my friends are Buzzing-happy, buy benfotiamine and other times they are balanced-stabilizers. Defining these personalities – and how you feel when you’re around different types of energy – has helped me in understanding why I leave feeling out of sorts from some interaction. Buy benfotiamine In turn, buy benfotiamine it helps me decide what to do – and who I choose to spend time with – in the future. Relationships matter. Pay attention to how the people around you are making you feel. Which is your favorite personality type to be around? ### Image credit: The author, buy benfotiamine Sarah Kathleen Peck

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Sarah is the founder of Landscape Urbanism and writes a blog about design, buy benfotiamine business, buy benfotiamine psychology and strategy at www.itstartswith.com. Buy benfotiamine Her work overlaps in the space between architecture, buy benfotiamine design, buy benfotiamine technology and business – during the day she works as a Communications Specialist for an international landscape architecture firm, buy benfotiamine SWA Group, buy benfotiamine in Sausalito CA.