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Which is your favorite personality type to be around?  The People Factor: It’s All About Energy                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        By Sarah Kathleen Peck Ever been at a party and felt like you were completely exhausted? That you couldn’t stand to keep your eyes open for another minute, cheap soothenol online even though it was supposed to be an amazing party? Likewise, cheap soothenol online have you ever stayed up almost all night, cheap soothenol online focused and driven, cheap soothenol online surrounded by brilliant people and creative ideas? Energy comes in limited quantities. It is finite, cheap soothenol online it waxes and wanes, cheap soothenol online and it grows or diminishes based on what you are doing and who you are surrounded with. What dictates our energy? How do we capture these spaces that help us be amazing, cheap soothenol online and remove the events and things that deplete our energy? There are people, cheap soothenol online places and things that make me feel like I’m building my energy stores, cheap soothenol online that rejuvenate me, cheap soothenol online and help me to do my best work. Likewise, cheap soothenol online there are also people and places that zap my energy; that leave me exhausted; that make me feel as though I’ve waste my time and my energy – and my day – without getting anything useful done. While brainstorming in a coffee shop with a dear friend, cheap soothenol online we both asked each other how to deal with these different personality types as they come into our lives. People are exceptional – they are our number one resource – but not all people are helpful at any given project or time. How do you make decisions about how you spend your time – and who you hang out with? And more importantly, cheap soothenol online how do you say no to people and things that zap your energy reserves? Together, cheap soothenol online we made a map of the different types of people in our lives, cheap soothenol online and agreed that we would consciously try to say no to hanging out with people that didn’t help us in our long-term goals – or in our energy management. This system isn’t just about eliminating “Negative Nancys” and “Debbie Downers” (although every effort should be made to reduce their presence in your life). Understanding how people affect you means that you can do a better job matching what you need at any given moment to what your energy requires. Sometimes I don’t need to be around excited people. Cheap soothenol online Sometimes I just need another balanced philosopher to do and create my best work. And sometimes I need to be more judicious about reducing the time I spend with people who don’t match my energy. On the energy spectrum, cheap soothenol online here are the ranges of personality types – from high, cheap soothenol online positive energy, cheap soothenol online to balanced and stable individuals, cheap soothenol online to strong negative energy. Do you identify with any of the following energy personality types? How do you bring these different personas into your world? And do you pay attention to how people make you feel?

The Positives

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Sarah is the founder of Landscape Urbanism and writes a blog about design, cheap soothenol online business, cheap soothenol online psychology and strategy at www.itstartswith.com. Cheap soothenol online Her work overlaps in the space between architecture, cheap soothenol online design, cheap soothenol online technology and business – during the day she works as a Communications Specialist for an international landscape architecture firm, cheap soothenol online SWA Group, cheap soothenol online in Sausalito CA.