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Blame and power abuse - how they work together.... http://arjunaardagh.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/pointing-finger.jpg Earlier on Facebook I found a post where the topic of the post was one I've observed a lot lately.  Perhaps that is why I responded with a rather stringent reply. I find it rather disappointing to read comments however well intentioned which look at issues by ignoring core question of 'why' a situation is the way it is, discount oral health cats or what is a root cause. Discount oral health cats In this case, discount oral health cats it was addressing Governmental/Power abuse and how citizens need to wake up and essentially smell the coffee.   A valid point most of us would not disagree with. 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Discount oral health cats    And while its counter productive to overlook such a root issue, discount oral health cats I certainly understand why we do it.  While I have no problem in agreeing with that premise, discount oral health cats I feel that there is a tendency to blame someone/some group, discount oral health cats often the ones least represented and most victimized, discount oral health cats  and as such, discount oral health cats over simplify what is a much larger issue discussed soley on its surface.   That way, discount oral health cats everyone remains comfortable and satisfied with the tepid interactions and nothing gets adequately examined or better understood. 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While I disagree with the article's premise stating the fault of such abuse derives solely from "Democrats or Liberals".   ( Note: It is my hope at some point, discount oral health cats Americans and others will begin to better understand the true motivation behind party politics, discount oral health cats  "Republican versus Democrat" etc. Discount oral health cats   I hope people will begin to note a systemic 'game' being played at large - that party systems are, discount oral health cats at least in my opinion and observation, discount oral health cats diversionary means which keep the citizenry divided and hobbled in our ability to implement effective goals and progress, discount oral health cats due to such manufactured divisions by those witholding power. Discount oral health cats   And as I've said before, discount oral health cats that's another article for another day**) Additionally putting party politics aside, discount oral health cats I believe, discount oral health cats similar to any family, discount oral health cats community of people or governing body, discount oral health cats an abusive cycle is a systemic in nature and it involves everyone within the system itself.   We all play a part in other words, discount oral health cats in the dysfunction.  With that said, discount oral health cats due to the monopolizing of power by the abuser(s), discount oral health cats it is the abuser who tends to create and control the reality of those around them, discount oral health cats (often those enabling  the abuser's themselves) and those who are subject to the abuser's power and control. 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"Abusive relationships are more difficult to end than healthy ones. Discount oral health cats " When reading these words and considering so much of our leadership via corporate leadership and/or governmental leadership, discount oral health cats perhaps it's not such a stretch to see how such dynamics are  played out in these arenas? There is much more to add in terms of underlying cause and effect.   Also it should be noted that all of us have a capacity to abuse power, discount oral health cats especially if unconditionally granted that power coupled with no accountabilty. Discount oral health cats   It also is a reality that too much power for some and likewise too little power for others ulitmately creates an imbalance that harms everyone in the long run.  We can certainly see such a power imbalance on a global scale.    Perhaps if one fundamental factor could be better realized it would be for us to address situations where it is clear that wrongdoing is happening, discount oral health cats and likewise affirm those situations where people protect and defend those who can't defend themselves and need protecting.  When people are apprehensive to say what needs to be said, discount oral health cats then those who are abusing power, discount oral health cats in truth may not realize what they are doing is wrong, discount oral health cats and likewise, discount oral health cats will continue to engage in the same behavior, discount oral health cats until they are prevented from doing so.  Certainly is the case for children, discount oral health cats where there is still the need and responsibility to address bad behavior.   Adults should already know the difference between right and wrong, discount oral health cats however it's clear from simple observation that while many may know the difference, discount oral health cats many are not held accountable to do what is right and as such continue to do what is wrong, discount oral health cats so often at the expense of many, discount oral health cats including themselves. Discount oral health cats The source for the quote reference is : http://joytiz.com/2010/battered-public-syndrome/