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Blame and power abuse - how they work together.... http://arjunaardagh.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/pointing-finger.jpg Earlier on Facebook I found a post where the topic of the post was one I've observed a lot lately.  Perhaps that is why I responded with a rather stringent reply. I find it rather disappointing to read comments however well intentioned which look at issues by ignoring core question of 'why' a situation is the way it is, find pepcid or what is a root cause. Find pepcid In this case, find pepcid it was addressing Governmental/Power abuse and how citizens need to wake up and essentially smell the coffee.   A valid point most of us would not disagree with. 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There is much more to add in terms of underlying cause and effect.   Also it should be noted that all of us have a capacity to abuse power, find pepcid especially if unconditionally granted that power coupled with no accountabilty. Find pepcid   It also is a reality that too much power for some and likewise too little power for others ulitmately creates an imbalance that harms everyone in the long run.  We can certainly see such a power imbalance on a global scale.    Perhaps if one fundamental factor could be better realized it would be for us to address situations where it is clear that wrongdoing is happening, find pepcid and likewise affirm those situations where people protect and defend those who can't defend themselves and need protecting.  When people are apprehensive to say what needs to be said, find pepcid then those who are abusing power, find pepcid in truth may not realize what they are doing is wrong, find pepcid and likewise, find pepcid will continue to engage in the same behavior, find pepcid until they are prevented from doing so.  Certainly is the case for children, find pepcid where there is still the need and responsibility to address bad behavior.   Adults should already know the difference between right and wrong, find pepcid however it's clear from simple observation that while many may know the difference, find pepcid many are not held accountable to do what is right and as such continue to do what is wrong, find pepcid so often at the expense of many, find pepcid including themselves. Find pepcid The source for the quote reference is : http://joytiz.com/2010/battered-public-syndrome/