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Which is your favorite personality type to be around?  The People Factor: It’s All About Energy                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        By Sarah Kathleen Peck Ever been at a party and felt like you were completely exhausted? That you couldn’t stand to keep your eyes open for another minute, free bupropion even though it was supposed to be an amazing party? Likewise, free bupropion have you ever stayed up almost all night, free bupropion focused and driven, free bupropion surrounded by brilliant people and creative ideas? Energy comes in limited quantities. It is finite, free bupropion it waxes and wanes, free bupropion and it grows or diminishes based on what you are doing and who you are surrounded with. What dictates our energy? How do we capture these spaces that help us be amazing, free bupropion and remove the events and things that deplete our energy? There are people, free bupropion places and things that make me feel like I’m building my energy stores, free bupropion that rejuvenate me, free bupropion and help me to do my best work. Likewise, free bupropion there are also people and places that zap my energy; that leave me exhausted; that make me feel as though I’ve waste my time and my energy – and my day – without getting anything useful done. While brainstorming in a coffee shop with a dear friend, free bupropion we both asked each other how to deal with these different personality types as they come into our lives. People are exceptional – they are our number one resource – but not all people are helpful at any given project or time. How do you make decisions about how you spend your time – and who you hang out with? And more importantly, free bupropion how do you say no to people and things that zap your energy reserves? Together, free bupropion we made a map of the different types of people in our lives, free bupropion and agreed that we would consciously try to say no to hanging out with people that didn’t help us in our long-term goals – or in our energy management. This system isn’t just about eliminating “Negative Nancys” and “Debbie Downers” (although every effort should be made to reduce their presence in your life). Understanding how people affect you means that you can do a better job matching what you need at any given moment to what your energy requires. Sometimes I don’t need to be around excited people. Free bupropion Sometimes I just need another balanced philosopher to do and create my best work. And sometimes I need to be more judicious about reducing the time I spend with people who don’t match my energy. On the energy spectrum, free bupropion here are the ranges of personality types – from high, free bupropion positive energy, free bupropion to balanced and stable individuals, free bupropion to strong negative energy. Do you identify with any of the following energy personality types? How do you bring these different personas into your world? And do you pay attention to how people make you feel?

The Positives

  • Buzzers. These are my excited electrons. Free bupropion People who are so thrilled to be around other people and in the world, free bupropion talking with them is like getting a burst of inspiration. Free bupropion When I wake up in the morning, free bupropion a phone call with them is better than coffee. Free bupropion They are my muses, free bupropion my inspirations, free bupropion my creatives. Free bupropion Like coffee, free bupropion however, free bupropion I can’t drink it nonstop each day – so they are better in quantifiable bursts.
  • Happys. Generally positive, free bupropion seem to be happy almost all the time. Free bupropion People you would skip with, free bupropion laugh with, free bupropion enjoy being with. Free bupropion I have lots of these in my life. Free bupropion They aren’t as physically excited as the Buzzers, free bupropion but they are generally happy and have a positive attitude about most things.
  • Wonder Listeners. People who can hear what you are saying without you saying it; who seem to listen to you with both their bodies and their ears, free bupropion and who exude a positive radiance without necessarily saying or doing anything, free bupropion are your Wonder Listeners. Free bupropion After hanging out with one of these, free bupropion I leave feeling happy, free bupropion excited, free bupropion and inspired.
  • Coaches and Mentors. These are people who seem to have endless stores of hope and inspiration designed just for you. Free bupropion People who are genuinely interested in what you have to offer and how you are doing. Free bupropion The coaches and mentors are usually a check-in, free bupropion once a week or once a month, free bupropion and they offer their advice and wisdom to you in their interactions.

The Middle Balance (Balancers and Grounders)

  • Quiet Stabilizers. People who are refreshing, free bupropion rejuvenating, free bupropion and inspiring without being showy or ostentatious. Free bupropion Someone you can sit quietly in a park with, free bupropion without talking very much, free bupropion and leave happier. Free bupropion These people don’t toot their own horn, free bupropion and likely don’t know how cool they are. Free bupropion Yet being around them is satiating, free bupropion relaxing, free bupropion restorative.
  • Feedbacks. People who tell you what you need to hear, free bupropion not necessarily what you want to hear. Free bupropion These people can be mistakenly labeled as negatives, free bupropion but they still have your best interests in heart and are actually looking out for you in the long run. Free bupropion Keep them around, free bupropion but note the times when you aren’t up for receiving feedback and need encouragement instead – and seek them out when you need smart advice.
  • The Strugglers and Changers. There are people who are struggling, free bupropion working towards change, free bupropion and are sometimes frustrated or caught in-betweens. Free bupropion They are on their way towards becoming the person they want to be, free bupropion and conversations with them are raw, free bupropion open, free bupropion inspiring, free bupropion hard, free bupropion and generally variable.These are my strongest friends, free bupropion the people who open my eyes and listen to my shared experiences as well. Free bupropion We learn well together. Free bupropion To note, free bupropion however, free bupropion sometimes I don’t have enough energy to devote to these conversations, free bupropion and it’s best to say No and save the date for another, free bupropion more energetic time.

Negatives

  • The Repetitives and Non-Changers. People who are stuck in a problem that you’ve listened to for years. Free bupropion Their complaints are the same, free bupropion over and over again, free bupropion and they don’t bring anything new to the table. Free bupropion Each time, free bupropion it feels like you’re stuck in déjà-vu, free bupropion because you’re still talking about how to deal with their terrible relationships, free bupropion bad work situation, free bupropion or general malaise. Free bupropion To deal with these types, free bupropion tell them, free bupropion politely and firmly, free bupropion that you don’t want to talk about their ____ problem anymore. Free bupropion “I appreciate all the struggles you are having with your job situation, free bupropion but I’d like to not talk about that anymore. Free bupropion I know you are working hard on it. Free bupropion Let’s focus and talk about new things when we meet.”
  • The Fakes. There are people who masquerade as positives – the words they use are cheery, free bupropion they tell you what they think you want to hear; they quote inspirational things and bits. Free bupropion But the substance is not there. Free bupropion And, free bupropion more importantly, free bupropion you are not rejuvenated by the words or the ideas in the way you are around Quiet Wonders or Listeners or Buzzers. Free bupropion Some people are obviously fake; others not so obviously. Free bupropion At the end of the day, free bupropion what’s most important is how you respond when you’re around them.
  • Negative Influences. There are people who are wonderful, free bupropion interesting, free bupropion bright, free bupropion and creative. Free bupropion And yet, free bupropion for some reason, free bupropion I am negatively influenced when I am around them. Free bupropion It’s not that they themselves are bad people – it’s that I make bad choices when I’m around them. Free bupropion For some reason or another, free bupropion hanging out with them is not conducive to my success. Free bupropion These are the trickiest people to identify, free bupropion because there’s nothing about them that’s bad or easy to rationalize avoiding. Free bupropion It’s how they influence you that tells you about whether or not it’s a good person to have in your life.
  • Toxic. These are the people who make you feel like shutting down when you’re around them. Free bupropion The people that drain you, free bupropion that zap your energy, free bupropion that are filled with negativity and cutting remarks. Free bupropion Most of us quickly eliminate these people from our lives after just a few interactions. Free bupropion They are easy to spot and identify. Free bupropion If you still have them around, free bupropion ask yourself why? What do you benefit from being with a toxic person?
In each of these scenarios, free bupropion the most important thing is how each of these personality types make you feel. It’s not about whether or not the person is a good or bad person – it’s about whether or not they are the right energy type for you. It’s important to note that not all people can fit neatly into each of these categories – often the dynamic relationships we have with others changes depending on who is interacting and what the objectives are. Free bupropion Sometimes my friends are Buzzing-happy, free bupropion and other times they are balanced-stabilizers. Defining these personalities – and how you feel when you’re around different types of energy – has helped me in understanding why I leave feeling out of sorts from some interaction. Free bupropion In turn, free bupropion it helps me decide what to do – and who I choose to spend time with – in the future. Relationships matter. Pay attention to how the people around you are making you feel. Which is your favorite personality type to be around? ### Image credit: The author, free bupropion Sarah Kathleen Peck

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Sarah is the founder of Landscape Urbanism and writes a blog about design, free bupropion business, free bupropion psychology and strategy at www.itstartswith.com. Free bupropion Her work overlaps in the space between architecture, free bupropion design, free bupropion technology and business – during the day she works as a Communications Specialist for an international landscape architecture firm, free bupropion SWA Group, free bupropion in Sausalito CA.