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Breaking The Taboo Against Women Loving Women by Peggy Luhrs Since Persephone was taken from Demeter, free ephedraxin patriarchal society has done its best to break the bonds between women. Free ephedraxin Patriarchy demands that women give primacy to men. Free ephedraxin It implicitly and explicitly forbids woman loving, free ephedraxin whether this be the love of one woman for another, free ephedraxin for herself, free ephedraxin or for her sex. Free ephedraxin Understanding the nature, free ephedraxin reasons and uses of this taboo leads to an understanding of the centrality of lesbians to any movement to improve the status of women. Free ephedraxin I use the example of the Demeter/Persephone myth to underscore the fact that the first bond broken by patriarchy is the mother/daughter bond. Free ephedraxin That bond is the emotional basis for women loving women. Free ephedraxin All of us first learn love from our mothers, free ephedraxin but society has insisted that women deny this bond and give their love exclusively to men. Free ephedraxin Lesbians are women who have, free ephedraxin among other things, free ephedraxin broken these rules. Free ephedraxin In this male supremacist world, free ephedraxin all things female are devalued. Free ephedraxin This is a suicidal course for the race and, free ephedraxin indeed, free ephedraxin late patriarchy distinguishes itself by its capacity to annihilate not only the human race, free ephedraxin but the entire planet. Free ephedraxin Mother Earth is an entity perceived as female and therefore routinely subject to rape and abuse. Free ephedraxin This global ideology translates on the personal plane to a taboo against woman loving. Free ephedraxin First and foremost, free ephedraxin women are inculcated with a sense of self-hatred. Free ephedraxin Growing up in a world where things male are overvalued and things female undervalued cannot help but leave women feeling like inferior beings. If a woman somehow escapes this conditioning, free ephedraxin the first signs of self-assertion will surely bring her lessons in the selfishness and unacceptability of such behavior. Free ephedraxin Organizing with women, free ephedraxin as I have for the last fifteen years, free ephedraxin has convinced me that the most effective stumbling block to our liberation is the internalized self-hatred that comes from living in a woman-hating world. Free ephedraxin If we have such a hard time valuing ourselves, free ephedraxin how can we change society's evaluation of us? Women constantly put men first in a way men never do for women, free ephedraxin no matter how heterosexual they are. Free ephedraxin Lesbians break the taboo against women bonding and deny the imperative that a man should be the first interest of every woman. Free ephedraxin For this heresy, free ephedraxin they are severely punished by the family, free ephedraxin state, free ephedraxin church, free ephedraxin and the priests' heirs, free ephedraxin the psychiatrists. Free ephedraxin More subtly, free ephedraxin their entire existence is erased in the culture. Free ephedraxin They are labeled unnatural (as are spinsters) and they are said to wish to be men. Free ephedraxin While lesbians may wish more access to the world (which is considered male), free ephedraxin they prefer being women. Free ephedraxin We are not to love ourselves; it is selfish for a woman and self-respecting for a man. Free ephedraxin We are not to love our sex: that's strident for a woman and normal for a man. Free ephedraxin We are not to love another woman; that is unnatural, free ephedraxin perverse and insurrectionary. Free ephedraxin Men are not to love other men homosexually either, free ephedraxin because that is perceived as playing a female role and therefore degrading. Free ephedraxin Lesbianism is the strongest and most overt expression of women bonding we have. Free ephedraxin The repression of lesbians reflects the degree to which women in general are kept down. Free ephedraxin Women are socialized in heterosexuality to insure that they continue to see their work as their natural realm, free ephedraxin so that their unpaid work at home will be mystified. Free ephedraxin Lesbians contradict this conditioning and challenge the prevailing economic system's use of women. Free ephedraxin Women usually do the housework, free ephedraxin even if they work themselves, free ephedraxin and are expected to be emotionally supportive of men as well. Free ephedraxin Many conversations with women, free ephedraxin as well as my own experience, free ephedraxin convince me this kind of emotional support is rarely reciprocal. Free ephedraxin Lesbians offer this kind of support to each other and can enable themselves and each other to do other work. Free ephedraxin Defining women's role as naturally to serve men is the major reason lesbians are labeled as unnatural. Free ephedraxin Virginia Woolf wrote that men wish women to "reflect them back at twice their size." Lesbians refuse to do this and are disdained for their refusal. Free ephedraxin Whenever women begin to bond, free ephedraxin despite their socialization, free ephedraxin men have done their best to stem the tide of independent women. Free ephedraxin As Carol Smith Rosenberg points out in her book "Disorderly Conduct": "The years before and after WW I saw women's greatest professional visibility and political activism ... Free ephedraxin Neither before nor since have women been so political -- and so politically successful. Free ephedraxin They battled for Peace, free ephedraxin suffrage, free ephedraxin child labor and protective labor, free ephedraxin for birth control and sexual liberation." She then notes, free ephedraxin "During these same years, free ephedraxin male politicians, free ephedraxin aided by male physicians, free ephedraxin sex reformers and educators launched a concerted political attack condemning female friendships as lesbian and separate female institutions -- educational or political -- as breeding places for 'unnatural' sexual impulses. Free ephedraxin These attacks constituted an integral part of the 1920's assault on feminists and radicals." This is still going on, free ephedraxin in ever new and subtle forms. Free ephedraxin Few political strategies are as old or effective as Divide and Conquer. Free ephedraxin All dominant groups use it to retain power. Free ephedraxin In a nutshell, free ephedraxin this is the basis of the taboo against women bonding. Free ephedraxin If women were united, free ephedraxin self-affirming, free ephedraxin women loving feminists, free ephedraxin male supremacy, free ephedraxin with its attendant privilege, free ephedraxin would quickly collapse. Free ephedraxin This is not to blame women for their current status. Free ephedraxin Men have used economic sanctions, free ephedraxin labeling, free ephedraxin and all the power of the church, free ephedraxin state and family to police women into their male defined role. Free ephedraxin They have used rape and brute force as well. Free ephedraxin The forces ranged against us are tremendous and it is a tribute to women's amazing creativity that we have survived and progressed despite such odds. Free ephedraxin The system of heterosexual hegemony is so normative and institutionalized that women often enforce it for men. Free ephedraxin This is the saddest and perhaps most effective way of keeping women divided. Free ephedraxin It is the impetus behind this article. Free ephedraxin As a feminist, free ephedraxin I know the reasons men wish to label me unnatural and erase my existence. Free ephedraxin It is much harder to experience the same treatment from women, free ephedraxin when one knows they are acting against their own ultimate self-interest and the selves of all women. Free ephedraxin Recently I read the following: "From the beginning of the women's movement to the present day, free ephedraxin a significant number of homosexual women assumed the leadership in the numerous struggles and ... Free ephedraxin through their energy awakened ... Free ephedraxin the average woman to awareness of their human dignity and rights. Free ephedraxin Considering the contributions made to the women's movement by lesbians for decades, free ephedraxin it is amazing that the large and influential organizations of the movement have never lifted a finger to improve the civil rights and social standing of their numerous (lesbian) sisters." The date of this quote is 1904! It could be Vermont and the current ERA struggle, free ephedraxin the situation is the same. Free ephedraxin Lesbians have done so much of the work in the women's movement and every struggle for women's rights, free ephedraxin yet their sisters have usually not responded in kind and, free ephedraxin worse yet, free ephedraxin have denied or censured lesbians out of their own fear. Free ephedraxin The right is waging a homophobic campaign against the passage of the ERA. Free ephedraxin Representing male supremacy, free ephedraxin they use the same tactics. Free ephedraxin Homosexuality is a scapegoat issue, free ephedraxin trotted out to obscure their real agenda, free ephedraxin which is economic. Free ephedraxin The money behind STOP-ERA is right-wing money protecting its interest in the heap labor pool that women provide. Free ephedraxin This is the real issue that so far neither side has addressed. Free ephedraxin Some of the women in the pro-ERA forces are so lesbian-phobic as to give the right a real advantage. Free ephedraxin If we are to be beaten with the club of homophobia and our own side holds the same club, free ephedraxin are we not aiding and abetting the opposition? The right functions on fear and the antidote to that is not defensiveness, free ephedraxin but courage. Free ephedraxin I'm proud to be an unnatural, free ephedraxin selfish, free ephedraxin strident woman. Free ephedraxin I recognize those epithets as misogynist censures and tributes to my effectiveness. Free ephedraxin I'm proud of lesbians. Free ephedraxin It takes courage to live a life with so little social support and many economic and social sanctions against it. Free ephedraxin Lesbianism represents one way of replacing the woman bond that patriarchy has done its best to destroy. Free ephedraxin It is a real achievement. Free ephedraxin If lesbians can have the courage to live our lives and support the women's movement, free ephedraxin surely our sisters in the fight for women's rights can have the courage to support lesbians. Free ephedraxin http://www.mountainpridemedia.org/oitm/issues/1986/02feb1986/taboo.htm