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Learning to Love Yourself is a Pointless Waste of Time
People often say that this or that person has not yet found himself. Geriforte
But the self is not something one finds, geriforte it is something one creates. ~Thomas Szasz, geriforte â€œPersonal Conduct, geriforteâ€ The Second Sin, geriforte 1973 Remember when the hippy dippy girl with the dreads was the only one dashing off to Indonesia to â€˜find herself?â€™
Now everyone under 30 is off searching for themselves in some misguided attempt to discover inner peace and the results are nothing to write home about. Geriforte
Usually, geriforte when people â€˜find themselves, geriforteâ€™ the only thing they really discover is more things to hate.
The reason for this is simple: If youâ€™re spending all your time focusing inward, geriforte itâ€™s pretty impossible to make a positive impact anywhere else. Geriforte
Self fulfillment never comes after looking in the mirror and finally realizing youâ€™re a raging narcissist.
â€œLove yourself!â€ the Self Esteem Police often howls to the masses, geriforte â€œYouâ€™ll never learn to love another until you love yourself!
Take care of yourself before you take care of others! You! You! You! Itâ€™s all about you!â€
Even people who have had this theory beat into their head since birth are having trouble applying it positively to their life. Geriforte
The only thing continuous introspection has taught them is theyâ€™re not particularly lovable in the first place. Geriforte
And spending every waking moment of their life in a sad attempt to create the image of prosperity with ultimately meaningless status symbols ultimately makes them feel empty and alone.
So what should they do?
Buy a bigger house or a nicer car?
Secure a spot on a reality TV show and pursue fame and fortune? What will finally make people happy?
Where oh where can they possibly find a little self respect?
Much like most things in life, geriforte the answer to this question is embarrassingly simple: If you want to self respect, geriforte live a life worth respecting. Geriforte
If you want people to care about you, geriforte you need to care about them. Geriforte
Self love will come only after you learn to love another. Geriforte
The Self Esteem Police have always had it totally backwards. Geriforte
A person should spend the majority of their time looking outwards, geriforte as opposed to obsessing over every little nuance of their innermost psyche.
So many people have told me they want their lives to â€˜meanâ€™ something. Geriforte
What always strikes me about these breathlessly whispered proclamations is how little they are actively doing to make an impact. Geriforte
Itâ€™s almost as if they believe the elusive â€˜meaningâ€™ they are searching for will randomly pop into their lives as they cross the street to buy a cup of coffee from Starbucks.
Iâ€™m tired of listening to people insist they want to do great things while simultaneously highlighting paragraphs out of poorly thought out self help books. Geriforte
Iâ€™d like to know what people are doing. Geriforte
This world is shit and there is no shortage of places to make an impact.
So, geriforte what are you doing?
Every single person on this planet should being volunteering for something. Geriforte
I donâ€™t care if youâ€™re an over privileged millionaire or legitimately in need yourself, geriforte good things come to those who give back. Geriforte
And this isnâ€™t some hocus pocus karma theory, geriforte either. Geriforte
I know Iâ€™d personally rather help the single Mom who spends her weekends dolling out soup to the homeless rather than the one who spends all her time whining on her blog about all the bills she canâ€™t pay. Geriforte People help those who are worth their good will. Geriforte
People worth good will are those who offer it before they need it themselves.
Of course, geriforte not every cause is for everyone which is where I think so many people go wrong when looking for volunteer work. Geriforte
When I was young, geriforte I started volunteering for an organization aimed at helping certain victimized individuals and only ended up feeling disgust and disdain for the people I was supposed to be helping. Geriforte
After becoming increasingly disenchanted with my work, geriforte I threw up my hands and insisted that volunteering wasnâ€™t right for me.
Looking back, geriforte I can see now that volunteering my time wasnâ€™t the negative. Geriforte
I had simply chosen an issue I couldnâ€™t heartily get behind. Geriforte
Rather than give up and live 3 years of my life devoid of soul and the inner peace one gains when they sincerely feel like theyâ€™re making a difference, geriforte I should have merely sought out a new cause. Geriforte
Now Iâ€™m involved in multiple causes that I emotionally invested in and I can say with complete certainty that the small successes I make with my various groups are the happiest moments of my life. Geriforte
The whole world is not about me. Geriforte
Itâ€™s about what I can do while Iâ€™m here to make even the slightest impact.
If you donâ€™t respect adults, geriforte help children. Geriforte If youâ€™re not particularly fond of children, geriforte help animals. Geriforte
If Americans drive you nuts, geriforte help people in other countries. Geriforte The environment is going to shit. Geriforte
There are diseases that need curing. Geriforte
Sick, geriforte infirm, geriforte elderly people need someone to visit them. Geriforte
Trash needs picked up on the highway. Geriforte
Your neighbor could use some help fixing her fucking fence. Geriforte
There is plenty to do in this world. Geriforte
Rather than spend your time wondering how you can feel fulfilled, geriforte why not try doing something somewhat fulfilling?
Look outward and your innards will work themselves out. To read more articles like this one, geriforte check out the great website: