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Blame and power abuse - how they work together.... http://arjunaardagh.files.wordpress.com/2009/11/pointing-finger.jpg Earlier on Facebook I found a post where the topic of the post was one I've observed a lot lately.  Perhaps that is why I responded with a rather stringent reply. I find it rather disappointing to read comments however well intentioned which look at issues by ignoring core question of 'why' a situation is the way it is, order anafranil or what is a root cause. Order anafranil In this case, order anafranil it was addressing Governmental/Power abuse and how citizens need to wake up and essentially smell the coffee.   A valid point most of us would not disagree with. 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Order anafranil The source for the quote reference is : http://joytiz.com/2010/battered-public-syndrome/