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I've increasingly become interested in the rise of narcissism / narcissistic personalities in all levels of power, order avodart cod and in our own communities, order avodart cod even families at large. Order avodart cod   Of course we all need a good healthy self image, order avodart cod however the level of self-consumption, order avodart cod deceitful practices and entitlement are disturbingly becoming a trend.  Just taking a look at Goldman Sachs and the rest of the corporate banking structures as prime examples. Order avodart cod     I've been curious how (and why) narcissism/sociopathy have become more prominent in our perceptions and even definitions of  "success", order avodart cod and how they more importantly play a primary part in  the declination and erosion in our society overall.   I came across this article below -an insightful, order avodart cod interesting piece by Avigail Abarbanel. Narcissism and the world of "success" and smoke and mirrors, order avodart cod are more intertwined than most people probably realize.  The politics of Narcissism (and how image is more important than reality) http://static.crooksandliars.com/files/uploads/2009/04/culture%20of%20entitlement_8fa84.jpg

                     
Avigail Abarbanel


 I have always believed that my profession has a lot to offer to the understanding of politics. One important contribution we can make is to highlight the relationship between narcissism, order avodart cod in particular Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NDP), order avodart cod and politics.

A person has to have only five of the following DSM-IV criteria to be diagnosed with NPD. Order avodart cod He or she: (1) has a grandiose sense of self-importance;
(2) is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, order avodart cod power, order avodart cod brilliance, order avodart cod beauty, order avodart cod or ideal love; (3) believes that he or she is ‘special’ and unique and can only be understood by, order avodart cod or should associate with, order avodart cod other special or high status people (or institutions); (4) requires excessive admiration; (5) has a sense of entitlement i.e., order avodart cod unreasonable expectations of especially favourable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations; (6) is interpersonally exploitative, order avodart cod i.e., order avodart cod takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends; (7) lacks empathy: is unwilling to recongise or identify with the feelings and needs of others; (8) is often envious of otherso r believes that others are envious of him or her; (9) shows arrogant, order avodart cod haughty behaviours or attitudes. Order avodart cod (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders DSM IV. Order avodart cod American Psychiatric Association. Order avodart cod P.661)

People with NPD are everywhere but can be found in particular in areas where there are visible signs of success, order avodart cod status and power, order avodart cod and where admiration can be obtained relatively easily for example: high level sports, order avodart cod entertainment, order avodart cod all branches of academia, order avodart cod medicine, order avodart cod military and law enforcement, order avodart cod high level corporate and public service jobs and in politics.

The emotional maturity of people with NPD is that of a 3-5 year old child.
They generate chaos, order avodart cod confusion and fear around them. They are divisive, order avodart cod and are incredibly harmful (emotionally and otherwise) to anyone under their influence. The closer you are to them, order avodart cod the worse it is.

I have worked with many clients over the years who are children of narcissists.
It’s a terrible hidden injury to have to live with. As parents, order avodart cod narcissists are not necessarily violent or abusive in any obvious sense. In fact they are more likely to be seen as ‘perfect’ devoted parents. They would often spend a lot of time with their chosen children pushing them to succeed in an area that they happen to value and so that they can put them on display. They might get involved in the child’s activity in some capacity, order avodart cod to be seen as selfless and helpful and to be admired by others as devoted parents. Order avodart cod Ask the child of a narcissist and he or she would tell you that ‘Dad got involved but he did it for himself. Order avodart cod It was never about me’.

I said ‘chosen children’ because if narcissists have two or more children, order avodart cod they will often divide them into two groups: the successful versus the unsuccessful, order avodart cod the bright and ‘not so bright’, order avodart cod those who could do well and those who ‘wouldn’t amount to anything’.
Many children of narcissists live a miserable life either as sad underachievers or as successful perfectionists who never feel they are good enough. Many end up killing themselves, order avodart cod or living with depression or substance abuse, order avodart cod and no one, order avodart cod least of all them, order avodart cod understands why. When they come to therapy they don’t feel that they have a right to have problems, order avodart cod because their family was not only ‘normal’ but even ‘perfect’. And this is important because image is everything for narcissists, order avodart cod and children (and partners) learn to collude early on with the task of making the family and the narcissistic parent look good. The French film Look at Me shows a good example of a successful author who has NPD and the devastating effect he has on his daughter.

Narcissists vary in the degree of 'success' they achieve. Order avodart cod
It depends a lot on their particular talents, order avodart cod their time in history, order avodart cod social class and other circumstances. Order avodart cod For example, order avodart cod many female narcissists could not have become successful at anything much two hundred years ago, order avodart cod when women’s status in society was so low. Order avodart cod Unsuccessful narcissists often spend their entire lives feeling bitter and disappointed about a world that they believe has failed to recognise their ‘specialness’, order avodart cod their beauty or genius. Order avodart cod They can get quite depressed and self-tormented, order avodart cod feeling deprived of what they need the most, order avodart cod and believe they deserve: recognition and admiration. Order avodart cod Narcissists in general tend to have a victim mentality and an unhealthy sense of entitlement. Order avodart cod They are incapable of self-awareness and do not own up or take responsibility for their actions. Order avodart cod Everything is always someone else’s fault.

Narcissists, order avodart cod particularly the successful ones, order avodart cod can be extremely well presented. Order avodart cod
People who are not too close to them tend to admire them but those who are unfortunate enough to live with them or work closely with them know better.

Less successful narcissists are attracted to more successful ones so that they can bask in their reflected glory. Order avodart cod
Behind the unrestrained admiration of celebrity in all varieites lies narcissism. Order avodart cod We even have parasitical industries that feed on it and promote it, order avodart cod such as glossy magazines (complete with paparazzi), order avodart cod and certain television shows whose entire focus is on creating overnight celebrities and feeding them to an audience of narcissists.

The damage narcissists do in the work environment is aptly described by the gifted Australian psychologist John Clarke in his book Working with Monsters. Order avodart cod NPD fits well with Clarke’s description of the ‘workplace psychopath’.

But what happens when narcissists run entire countries?
What happens when their decisions and actions affect millions of people, order avodart cod especially considering their lack of capacity for empathy or responsibility? Imagine what would happen if you gave a small child all the armies and money they want and enough power to do whatever they want with them, order avodart cod and you get the idea.

Politics, order avodart cod as it has been practiced throughout human history, order avodart cod is a magnet for narcissists because it offers so many advantages: power, order avodart cod money, order avodart cod privilege of all kinds, order avodart cod and most of all status and admiration. Order avodart cod
Narcissistic dictators are pretty obvious but even in Western democracies, order avodart cod politics includes too many elements, order avodart cod privileges and benefits that are all too attractive to narcissists.

If like me you are infuriated, order avodart cod frustrated and outright worried about policies that are short-sighted, order avodart cod that ignore facts and evidence (e.g. Order avodart cod Howard’s response to climate change); policies that promote divisiveness over unity and cooperation, order avodart cod suspicion and mistrust over compassion, order avodart cod and destructiveness over healing and dialogue, order avodart cod look for the narcissist. Order avodart cod
If you are shocked and disgusted by white collar crime or corruption, order avodart cod look for the narcissist. Order avodart cod If you are puzzled by why politics has been practiced with such cynicism and lack of compassion, order avodart cod with such shallowness, order avodart cod dishonesty and nastiness, order avodart cod look for the narcissists.

Big egos, order avodart cod resistance to change, order avodart cod ruthlessness and dishonesty are not just the foibles of high achievers, order avodart cod neither are they the admirable qualities of ‘go getters’. Order avodart cod
They are the symptom of a serious pathology. Order avodart cod It is important for the public to be able to understand and name what it sees rather than feel dismayed and puzzled by it.

Narcissistic leaders can give a whole society a narcissistic ‘flavour’ by promoting and advancing those who are like them. Order avodart cod
The most obvious signs of a narcissistic society are a strong focus on ‘grandness’, order avodart cod appearances and spectacles, order avodart cod disregard for rules and laws, order avodart cod and an empty confusing rhetoric at the expense of real substance. Order avodart cod A narcissistic government would spend a lot of money and effort publicising its achievements, order avodart cod real or imaginary. Order avodart cod Under narcissistic rulers reality begins to mix with fiction and real data about what is going on are covered up.

If we want to live in a compassionate, order avodart cod benevolent and rational society, order avodart cod based on dialogue and inclusiveness rather than fear and divisiveness, order avodart cod and if we want to have a long-term view of problem-solving we must ensure that we never again elect narcissistic leaders. Order avodart cod
A good way to prevent narcissists from being attracted to politics in the first place, order avodart cod is to reform the way politics is done. Order avodart cod A humbler political system that only offers to politicians what they really need in order to do their job, order avodart cod that is caring, order avodart cod transparent and truly accountable and that is run in the true spirit of service to the people, order avodart cod is unlikely to attract narcissists because they will not find in it the commodities they so covet. Avivigail Abarbanel's original article can be found at: http://www.avigailabarbanel.me.uk/narcissism.html