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Avigail Abarbanel


 I have always believed that my profession has a lot to offer to the understanding of politics. One important contribution we can make is to highlight the relationship between narcissism, order cheap slimpulse in particular Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NDP), order cheap slimpulse and politics.

A person has to have only five of the following DSM-IV criteria to be diagnosed with NPD. Order cheap slimpulse He or she: (1) has a grandiose sense of self-importance;
(2) is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, order cheap slimpulse power, order cheap slimpulse brilliance, order cheap slimpulse beauty, order cheap slimpulse or ideal love; (3) believes that he or she is ‘special’ and unique and can only be understood by, order cheap slimpulse or should associate with, order cheap slimpulse other special or high status people (or institutions); (4) requires excessive admiration; (5) has a sense of entitlement i.e., order cheap slimpulse unreasonable expectations of especially favourable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations; (6) is interpersonally exploitative, order cheap slimpulse i.e., order cheap slimpulse takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends; (7) lacks empathy: is unwilling to recongise or identify with the feelings and needs of others; (8) is often envious of otherso r believes that others are envious of him or her; (9) shows arrogant, order cheap slimpulse haughty behaviours or attitudes. Order cheap slimpulse (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders DSM IV. Order cheap slimpulse American Psychiatric Association. Order cheap slimpulse P.661)

People with NPD are everywhere but can be found in particular in areas where there are visible signs of success, order cheap slimpulse status and power, order cheap slimpulse and where admiration can be obtained relatively easily for example: high level sports, order cheap slimpulse entertainment, order cheap slimpulse all branches of academia, order cheap slimpulse medicine, order cheap slimpulse military and law enforcement, order cheap slimpulse high level corporate and public service jobs and in politics.

The emotional maturity of people with NPD is that of a 3-5 year old child.
They generate chaos, order cheap slimpulse confusion and fear around them. They are divisive, order cheap slimpulse and are incredibly harmful (emotionally and otherwise) to anyone under their influence. The closer you are to them, order cheap slimpulse the worse it is.

I have worked with many clients over the years who are children of narcissists.
It’s a terrible hidden injury to have to live with. As parents, order cheap slimpulse narcissists are not necessarily violent or abusive in any obvious sense. In fact they are more likely to be seen as ‘perfect’ devoted parents. They would often spend a lot of time with their chosen children pushing them to succeed in an area that they happen to value and so that they can put them on display. They might get involved in the child’s activity in some capacity, order cheap slimpulse to be seen as selfless and helpful and to be admired by others as devoted parents. Order cheap slimpulse Ask the child of a narcissist and he or she would tell you that ‘Dad got involved but he did it for himself. Order cheap slimpulse It was never about me’.

I said ‘chosen children’ because if narcissists have two or more children, order cheap slimpulse they will often divide them into two groups: the successful versus the unsuccessful, order cheap slimpulse the bright and ‘not so bright’, order cheap slimpulse those who could do well and those who ‘wouldn’t amount to anything’.
Many children of narcissists live a miserable life either as sad underachievers or as successful perfectionists who never feel they are good enough. Many end up killing themselves, order cheap slimpulse or living with depression or substance abuse, order cheap slimpulse and no one, order cheap slimpulse least of all them, order cheap slimpulse understands why. When they come to therapy they don’t feel that they have a right to have problems, order cheap slimpulse because their family was not only ‘normal’ but even ‘perfect’. And this is important because image is everything for narcissists, order cheap slimpulse and children (and partners) learn to collude early on with the task of making the family and the narcissistic parent look good. The French film Look at Me shows a good example of a successful author who has NPD and the devastating effect he has on his daughter.

Narcissists vary in the degree of 'success' they achieve. Order cheap slimpulse
It depends a lot on their particular talents, order cheap slimpulse their time in history, order cheap slimpulse social class and other circumstances. Order cheap slimpulse For example, order cheap slimpulse many female narcissists could not have become successful at anything much two hundred years ago, order cheap slimpulse when women’s status in society was so low. Order cheap slimpulse Unsuccessful narcissists often spend their entire lives feeling bitter and disappointed about a world that they believe has failed to recognise their ‘specialness’, order cheap slimpulse their beauty or genius. Order cheap slimpulse They can get quite depressed and self-tormented, order cheap slimpulse feeling deprived of what they need the most, order cheap slimpulse and believe they deserve: recognition and admiration. Order cheap slimpulse Narcissists in general tend to have a victim mentality and an unhealthy sense of entitlement. Order cheap slimpulse They are incapable of self-awareness and do not own up or take responsibility for their actions. Order cheap slimpulse Everything is always someone else’s fault.

Narcissists, order cheap slimpulse particularly the successful ones, order cheap slimpulse can be extremely well presented. Order cheap slimpulse
People who are not too close to them tend to admire them but those who are unfortunate enough to live with them or work closely with them know better.

Less successful narcissists are attracted to more successful ones so that they can bask in their reflected glory. Order cheap slimpulse
Behind the unrestrained admiration of celebrity in all varieites lies narcissism. Order cheap slimpulse We even have parasitical industries that feed on it and promote it, order cheap slimpulse such as glossy magazines (complete with paparazzi), order cheap slimpulse and certain television shows whose entire focus is on creating overnight celebrities and feeding them to an audience of narcissists.

The damage narcissists do in the work environment is aptly described by the gifted Australian psychologist John Clarke in his book Working with Monsters. Order cheap slimpulse NPD fits well with Clarke’s description of the ‘workplace psychopath’.

But what happens when narcissists run entire countries?
What happens when their decisions and actions affect millions of people, order cheap slimpulse especially considering their lack of capacity for empathy or responsibility? Imagine what would happen if you gave a small child all the armies and money they want and enough power to do whatever they want with them, order cheap slimpulse and you get the idea.

Politics, order cheap slimpulse as it has been practiced throughout human history, order cheap slimpulse is a magnet for narcissists because it offers so many advantages: power, order cheap slimpulse money, order cheap slimpulse privilege of all kinds, order cheap slimpulse and most of all status and admiration. Order cheap slimpulse
Narcissistic dictators are pretty obvious but even in Western democracies, order cheap slimpulse politics includes too many elements, order cheap slimpulse privileges and benefits that are all too attractive to narcissists.

If like me you are infuriated, order cheap slimpulse frustrated and outright worried about policies that are short-sighted, order cheap slimpulse that ignore facts and evidence (e.g. Order cheap slimpulse Howard’s response to climate change); policies that promote divisiveness over unity and cooperation, order cheap slimpulse suspicion and mistrust over compassion, order cheap slimpulse and destructiveness over healing and dialogue, order cheap slimpulse look for the narcissist. Order cheap slimpulse
If you are shocked and disgusted by white collar crime or corruption, order cheap slimpulse look for the narcissist. Order cheap slimpulse If you are puzzled by why politics has been practiced with such cynicism and lack of compassion, order cheap slimpulse with such shallowness, order cheap slimpulse dishonesty and nastiness, order cheap slimpulse look for the narcissists.

Big egos, order cheap slimpulse resistance to change, order cheap slimpulse ruthlessness and dishonesty are not just the foibles of high achievers, order cheap slimpulse neither are they the admirable qualities of ‘go getters’. Order cheap slimpulse
They are the symptom of a serious pathology. Order cheap slimpulse It is important for the public to be able to understand and name what it sees rather than feel dismayed and puzzled by it.

Narcissistic leaders can give a whole society a narcissistic ‘flavour’ by promoting and advancing those who are like them. Order cheap slimpulse
The most obvious signs of a narcissistic society are a strong focus on ‘grandness’, order cheap slimpulse appearances and spectacles, order cheap slimpulse disregard for rules and laws, order cheap slimpulse and an empty confusing rhetoric at the expense of real substance. Order cheap slimpulse A narcissistic government would spend a lot of money and effort publicising its achievements, order cheap slimpulse real or imaginary. Order cheap slimpulse Under narcissistic rulers reality begins to mix with fiction and real data about what is going on are covered up.

If we want to live in a compassionate, order cheap slimpulse benevolent and rational society, order cheap slimpulse based on dialogue and inclusiveness rather than fear and divisiveness, order cheap slimpulse and if we want to have a long-term view of problem-solving we must ensure that we never again elect narcissistic leaders. Order cheap slimpulse
A good way to prevent narcissists from being attracted to politics in the first place, order cheap slimpulse is to reform the way politics is done. Order cheap slimpulse A humbler political system that only offers to politicians what they really need in order to do their job, order cheap slimpulse that is caring, order cheap slimpulse transparent and truly accountable and that is run in the true spirit of service to the people, order cheap slimpulse is unlikely to attract narcissists because they will not find in it the commodities they so covet. Avivigail Abarbanel's original article can be found at: http://www.avigailabarbanel.me.uk/narcissism.html