Speman In Canada

Repercussions and Reverberations of Events Long Past

Connie Shannon

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Elizabeth and Manning shared a dance at a Black tie affair. 

It was a dance sparking a connection which altered their lives, speman in canada along with those around them. Speman in canada When Elizabeth and Manning took the dance floor they were married, speman in canada but not to each other. And it was that evening, speman in canada during that dance, speman in canada Elizabeth expressed to Manning what she had felt for decades…. Speman in canada   That she had loved him since her days as a round faced teenager sitting at the top of the staircase, speman in canada watching him pick up her older sister Harriett for dates at their home in Greenway Parks. Manning, speman in canada caught off guard by Elizabeth’s rather forward declaration, speman in canada replied to her she simply “can’t say that”.  However, speman in canada she had said it.   Elizabeth was known to say what she felt, speman in canada versus what may have been considered more socially appropriate.         It was not long after they danced that evening, speman in canada Manning reciprocated her affections. Liz at the time was married to another man, speman in canada whom she had been married to for over a decade.  During that time, speman in canada Liz and Jim had three boys together. The oldest, speman in canada a strong willed and determined child, speman in canada  was also a fierce protector and incredibly bright. The middle child could make one feel as if no one else in the room existed with his personality, speman in canada charm and good looks. Speman in canada The youngest of the boys, speman in canada somewhat shy, speman in canada endearing and incredibly kind to all, speman in canada was liked by everyone who knew him. The lives of three young children were in many ways, speman in canada irretrievably altered in 1960 when their mother, speman in canada my mother, speman in canada married a man named Manning Shannon. Speman in canada It almost seemed fate and/or sheer determination, speman in canada or both brought both Liz and Manning together. I was not a blip on the screen when my father and mother shared a dance together at that Black tie affair. I was born in 1965, speman in canada  at least five years after what apparently, speman in canada became quite a scandal in Highland Park. The level of reaction created by my mother and father marrying had never been told to me, speman in canada until a few years ago.    I also didn’t fully comprehend, speman in canada nor will I ever, speman in canada the impact it had on my older brothers. Additionally I never knew or understood the consequences it had on mother, speman in canada Jim Sr. Speman in canada and my father, speman in canada which inevitably had on all three and certainly those directly connected to them. I am beginning to realize and understand how it affected all of us, speman in canada and our relationships to one another.  At the time of the divorce my mother was abandoned by all of her friends when she divorced Jim in order to marry Manning, speman in canada an old friend of hers told me fairly recently. Speman in canada   My mother left a life behind to marry Manning. Speman in canada Divorces were pretty unique overall in 1960, speman in canada and were particularly unique in the little town of Highland Park.  Our mother’s choice to pursue and marry Manning created seismic shifts in the lives of quite a few, speman in canada that my mother at the time, speman in canada intoxicated by an unfulfilled quest, speman in canada had not consciously considered at the time.   Who does when they are in love? However in a world of cause and effect, speman in canada it had consequences which reverberate through those of us impacted (and consummated) by their union, speman in canada to this day. There is not a day I don’t wish for at least an hour of Liz and Manning’s time, speman in canada which I too often overlooked and undervalued when I was younger. If I could have time with my parents, speman in canada I would ask them many questions.  I would ask if they could do it over again, speman in canada would they share another dance? I would ask them how they would have done things differently, speman in canada if they could have done things differently? Life as usual continues today, speman in canada unabated and undeterred.   A friend of mine used to say that  ‘we are our choices’. Tonight I wonder from what place(s) do our choices originate? Are they directed and originated by other choices, speman in canada  decisions, speman in canada and reverberations of days, speman in canada  years and lifetimes gone by? Are our choices responses to moments which came long before us, speman in canada  before we ever drew our first breath?   Some thoughts and questions I have tonight. Speman in canada